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Long ago, many of us grew tired of looking for love in dive bars and dinner parties and then we found internet dating. When done correctly, internet dating can be almost as effective as dating in the real world. If you’re considering exploring the world of internet dating, you should be careful and follow certain guidelines. Following certain internet dating advice guidelines can keep you safe in your pursuit of a meaningful relationship or just a late night booty call.

The one piece of internet dating advice that we can’t stress enough is safety. There’s an inherent risk in sharing personal information and meeting strangers, and that risk is elevated when no one can account for your whereabouts. In order to remain safe, refrain from divulging personal details such as your last name and where you live or work until you can be sure of the person with which you’re chatting. Furthermore, before you begin dating on the internet set guidelines and benchmarks for any potential relationships.

Another piece of internet dating advice that you’ll find useful is about your profile. The first thing people will “see” about you is your profile so you should make it creative and witty, a comparable illustration of the person you are. If you choose to use a photo of yourself, keep it clean and flattering. Don’t post sexy photos of yourself unless you’re looking for sex only because that’s exactly what a sexy photo sells. Make sure that any photo you post in an internet dating site doesn’t reveal any private information such as the name of your company or street address.

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I receive a lot of emails from wives who want advice on how to save their marriages and prevent divorce.  One of the more common requests is something like “Help! My husband wants to divorce me, but I don’t want to end the marriage. What can I do to change his mind?” Sometimes, the women who contact me just suspect that their husband wants out because he has been distant, acts like or says he doesn’t love them anymore, or the two have been fighting with more frequency.  Sometimes, the husband has actually said (sometimes repeatedly) that he flat out wants a divorce and is going to get one. Mainly, these wives are either looking for ways to buy some time before the husband actually files the paper work and / or they want to bring back the warmth, intimacy, and feelings of closeness that the marriage is missing.  This article will discuss some things that you should (and should not) do if you are trying to stop your husband from divorcing you or want to bring back the love and closeness in your marriage.

Don’t Do Things That Will Drive Him Further Away: It’s very important that you don’t let your worry and panic drive you to do things that would make the divorce more likely.  Many wives will try to “make” or “get” their husbands to change his mind.  They do this by nagging, or trying to make their husbands feel guilty, or by arguing and debating. 

Sometimes, they will take the opposite strategy and try to “nice” their husbands to death. They become what I like to call a “yes honey” wife.  Anything he wants has to be A - OK with you - because the power of the relationship has shifted.  Since he wants the divorce, he’s the one who’s calling all the shots and you’re just the one who’s going along for the ride.  But, how much is he really going to respect you if you act this way?  You can’t have a truly solid and reciprocal marriage if you’re not both on equal footing.

In short, neither of these tactics are successful for the long term health of your marriage. They will only make your husband feel more distant from you, really.  Just for a second, think honestly about how these things or tactics are really going to turn out.  Do you really think that, after you’ve been communicating to your husband why he is wrong, selfish, or mistaken, that he’s going to turn to you and say “You know what? You’re right.  I’ve just changed my mind.”  Of course he’s not. Instead, he’s going to tune you out and carry on just to prove you wrong. So, what should you do instead?

Tell Him He’s Right (Before You Think This Is Crazy Advice, Read On): When I say that you should agree with your husband or tell him that he’s right, I don’t mean that you should agree to a divorce.  I would never advice you to do that.  Always be clear that you love your husband very much and value your marriage above everything else.  But, your main goal in the beginning of this process should be to validate your husband’s feelings.  As your husband’s wife, doesn’t his happiness matter greatly to you?  Of course it does.  You need to communicate this to your husband.  You should look him right in the eye (and hold his hand if he will let you) and agree that you too have felt a troubling distance in the marriage and you agree that things are not as good as they should be between you.  Tell your husband that his happiness and the relationship between you is very important and that, no matter what, you want to preserve the good feelings between you and will be working on this from this moment forward.

If you play your cards right here, this conversation should help to ease some of the tension.  Your husband may not believe you at first but he will probably be very relieved that you’re going to tone down the debate, disagreements, mind changing tactics or fighting.  Hopefully, he will realize that he no longer has to avoid you or block you out.

Always Be Mindful Of The Woman And Wife You Are Presenting To Your Husband: One exercise that I find really helpful in encouraging your husband to change his mind about a divorce is that you actually step into your husband’s mind and line of sight. What I mean by this is that you look at yourself through his eyes.  Now, I know you may be thinking this is silly and pointless, but please bear with me. 

For one full day, I’d like you to see your actions, appearance, and attitude through your husband’s eyes.  And, don’t change how you act to skew the results.  Act how you typically would on any regular day. When I did this exercise, I was shocked at what I saw. I saw a tired, preoccupied woman who rolled her eyes and never touched her husband in an affectionate way FOR THE WHOLE ENTIRE DAY.  Rarely was there a smile on my face.  Never did I ask my husband about his day, his feelings, or his experiences.  Not once did I go out of my way to make things better for him, lighten his load, or even give him the encouraging smile, nod or sympathetic glance which I regularly offer to complete strangers. This was my husband here and I was treating him worse than strangers on a bus.

Yes, at this time there was a strain in my marriage and there were times when he wasn’t acting very kindly to me either, but if the truth is known, my marriage had been suffering neglect for a long time and the signs were there.  I was ignoring them and was responding with becoming a woman who I wouldn’t want to be married to either.

Two wrongs do not make a right.  Take the high ground and act like the kind, open hearted, loving women you know yourself to be - deep down - before this marriage disappointed you, before the distance happened, before any of this divorce business came to light.

Because, once upon a time, your husband loved you so much that he married you.  The woman he fell in love with is still there.  Look in the mirror and you’ll see her staring back at you.  Has the light and excitement in her eyes dulled or faded?  If so, getting her back is really up to you. Open your heart, clear your mind, and get moving!

When I was trying to change my own husband’s mind about divorcing me, I made a lot of the same mistakes I dicussed here. Thankfully, I realized my tactics were not working and changed course. Eventually, I was able to restore my husband’s love and not only save the marriage, but make it stronger. You can read my very personal story on my blog at http://isavedmymarriage.com/

I had a family in my office the other day, and they described a problem I hear often in my role as a parenting coordinator. The two children, 8-year-old Timothy and 10-year old Alice were with Dad for his parenting time.

Timothy wanted to call Mom and tell her about a prize he’d received at school. Dad was busy helping Alice with her homework, and told Timothy it wasn’t a good time for him to call, because it was time for him to unload the dishwasher.

Timothy pouted and whined about not being able to call Mom. Dad got frustrated and angry, saying he didn’t know why Timothy couldn’t just wait to tell Mom when he went back to her house.

When Mom called later to say goodnight to the kids, Dad cut the call short by taking the phone and telling Mom to stop interfering with his parenting time. The situation escalated until Mom and Dad were yelling at each other and both kids were in tears.

Telephone issues are just another symptom of the ongoing conflict experienced by many couples who are sharing parenting duties after a divorce. Here are some tips to make telephone contact easier:

1) Limit phone calls between the kids and the “absent” parent to once a day.
2) Have all parties agree on an appropriate time that works for everyone.
3) A call in the morning or after school works well because it won’t disrupt mealtimes, homework, or bedtime routines.
4) Let the children initiate the call to the “absent” parent; this might feel less intrusive to the other parent.

Taking the time to work out a solution in cases like these is a positive step for parents who are continually in conflict with each other. The next important step is to address the underlying sources of the conflict and find new ways of dealing with each other on a continuing basis. A parenting coordinator can help with this process.

Your children will thank you for the effort.

Mary A. Wollard, JD, is an attorney, mediator, and arbitrator with over 20 years experience in solving the legal issues of divorce, parenting (custody), marital property and support. In addition to helping families through mediation and arbitration, Ms. Wollard provides parenting coordination and decision-making services to families when on-going conflict prevents them from fully implementing their parenting plan after divorce. Visit http://www.cofamilysolutions.com/downloads.htm for free downloadable worksheets you can use to organize your family’s transition.

You know well enough by now that we talk a lot around here about “deserving what you want”. The premise is simple but often overlooked: In order to get a great woman, you’ve GOT to be the kind of man who deserves her.

A day or two ago I was conversing with a friend when something very interesting came up. If “deserving what you want” is what you are all about, then by the very nature of things YOU are also becoming who a great woman deserves in the process…which is a great thing.

Of course, this also means that RIGHT HERE, RIGHT NOW not only is the bar at a certain level insofar as who you will successfully attract, but YOU are also who a certain cross-section of women is EXPECTING to attract. And my friend and I couldn’t help but agree that people tend to attract EXACTLY who they’ve prepared themselves to meet.

Case in point.

The other day I was visiting a particularly well-traveled forum in the “men’s dating advice” world when several posts caught my eye, all centered around a common theme: How all women–especially American ones (according to American guys, natch)–were basically lying manipulators who’ll cuckold you and take all your money someday. It was like a train wreck. I didn’t want to look, but I couldn’t help myself. And the more I read, the clearer the picture became.

To say these guys were a little…um…BITTER was an understatement. And the most unfortunate part was that the threads continued for pages and pages, all in a chorus of high-fives and hand pounds.

There was not one dissenting viewpoint represented.

It was then it occurred to me. All the guys who would potentially disagree weren’t hanging out in that forum complaining. They were probably too busy out enjoying the company of a great woman.

Guys all over the place are GETTING exactly what they PREPARE FOR from women. Rest assured, there are plenty of women out there who are warm, generous, playful, fun, virtuous and-yes-faithful AND beautiful. Some even have their own six-figure incomes and don’t really need your money. Seriously. And most are great in bed too (because they deserve to be).

Can you believe that? Do you think that I’m a naïve dreamer who’s kidding himself? Do you think Emily is less than genuine? Are friends of mine who have, like me, dated hundreds of women each only to ultimately select ONE GREAT WOMAN (notably Stephen Nash and my new friend Kelly aka Song_Bird from Social Rockstar) all fooling themselves and doomed to life in “The Matrix”?

Well, whatever lets you sleep at night. Except I think it’s really keeping you awake at night.

What if it’s all true? What if there really are great women out there? Deep down you probably know there are indeed. But here it is: You are attracting into your life EXACTLY the kind of woman you expect to meet…WHATEVER she’s like.

This really isn’t a “Law Of Attraction” thing either, necessarily. It’s actually all about LEADERSHIP, really.

Lookit. If you have no respect for women and believe that they are generally selfish, manipulative, morally bereft beings who are only good for the purpose of sexual release…then so be it. That’s your choice. And congratulations-you deserve what you want. You’ll continue to meet a steady stream of women who tend to believe that “all men are dogs”, that you “only want one thing” and that you’re inherently untrustworthy and must be tapped of your “natural resources” before you spend everything on gambling and “gentleman’s clubs”.

You’ll grow more frustrated by “man haters” in equal measure with the disdain you express for them.

But the truth remains true whether it’s acknowledged or not. There indeed ARE great women out there who respect and actually LIKE men, and want to be good to them. But a woman like that is not about to get mixed up with a guy who doesn’t believe she exists! And on the flip side, no man who respects women and has mastered the art of igniting femininity is going to put up with a woman who hates men. He has reserved the right not to have to.

The most breathtaking part of this whole scenario is how focused one’s tunnel vision can become in a very short amount of time. Sooner than later, if you choose to believe that all MOTOS (Members Of The Opposite Sex) are bad news you are going to be one lonely dude…and a sexually frustrated one, too, for that matter. All because your core belief will have become in a very real way your reality

So why doesn’t everyone-man or woman–wake up to what’s going on?

The answer is a simple one. Blame is the path of least resistance. Were someone to believe that there were MOTOS out there who did indeed live up to a higher standard, he or she would have to look squarely in the mirror. And that, friends and neighbors, is often more painful to bear than the loneliness of a world where all MOTOS are pretty much the enemy.

Or is it? Who knows for sure. It seems like many of us are too lazy to test the premise…at all. Complaining is hella easier than deserving what you want, huh? If so, don’t be surprised when it’s only you and those who are like minded keeping each other company on the forums. Your female counterparts will be waiting for you over on “Oprah” and “Jenny Jones”.

Yeah well, don’t be that guy. It’s not automatic. You can choose NOT to fall for the hype.

Do you have the guts as a man to step up and claim leadership over your right to deserve great women in your life? If so, you are already further along the path to deserving the highest echelon of women on Earth than most men, shockingly enough.

You’ll have to excuse me now…Emily is telling me she has a bubble bath ready.

Scot McKay’s dating strategies for those who refuse to settle and choose to deserve what they want are found at: http://www.relationship-advice.us - Stop by right now and Scot will personally send you a FREE e-book ($27 value) and a FREE 8-part mini-course ($47 value) when you sign up for the X & Y Communications Newsletter, which is always packed with unique and practical dating tips.

This is probably one of the most common scenarios in a relationship that’s bound to go south - whenever the boyfriend does something the woman doesn’t like, she’s quick to point it out and tell him never to do again. The boyfriend says something like, “Okay, sure, whatever you say.” But he goes ahead and makes the same mistake down the line, and the exasperated girlfriend rattles him off all over again.

Soon, the boyfriend starts tuning her out, saying things like, “Okay, okay, I get it. You don’t have to tell me again,” or “You know what, I don’t really want to talk about it right now.” And that’s a very infuriating thing for the woman, especially when he says this at a time when she really, really wants to speak her mind.

And it doesn’t take long before the boyfriend starts withdrawing from the relationship, wanting to spend less and less time with the woman, until the relationship just disappears without so much as proper closure.

If you’re reading this article, then I’m pretty sure something like this has happened to you before. And I’ll bet you’re asking yourself things like, “What the heck is wrong with him? Can’t he see I’m just trying to help him? And how could he have the nerve to turn his back on me, as though all of this was my fault?”

I understand how easy it is to think that all men are jerks who can’t take criticism, and shrink from the responsibility of “changing themselves” for you.

Unfortunately, for a relationship to work (and fail, for that matter), the actions of two people are needed. And if your relationship fell apart, it’s quite likely that you had a part in the failure, as well.

Let’s take the criticism part. For one thing, the mistakes men make in a relationship isn’t such a big deal for them. But many women, probably you included, turn it into such a big deal that he tends to wonder exactly what’s making you so dramatic or fussy. Let’s face it - no matter how terrible it was, he still thinks it was a little thing, and nothing you say or do can convince him otherwise.

But what about the withdrawal part? Well, when you criticize him, he tends to wonder exactly why you’re making such a big deal out of a little thing - and when he does, he’ll develop some nagging feelings that something really is wrong with him, but he doesn’t for the life of him know what it is.

And then he withdraws.

Here’s the fact - men distance themselves from you because it’s his natural way of coping with these mysterious negative feelings, and not because he wants to get back at you. In other words, it’s not personal, like you probably think it is.

So the lesson here is simple: You can’t make men see that you’re trying to help them by telling them. You can’t convince them to change for you - it’s only a recipe for disaster.

If you’d like him to accept you as you are, then you should accept him as he is, as well. That’s the best way for a relationship to keep growing.

Find out the ten most dangerous mistakes you make with men - and what to do about it.

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titleStock Market Wisdom From Cinderella/titlepYou know the classic story. It was boy meets girl and they all lived happily ever after. There was additional wisdom here, though, and this wisdom applies equally to both men and women./ppThis new wisdom is very important in stock market investing. As you read this, please keep the original story in mind./ppOnce upon a time there was this very nice, very hard working young man. He worked and worked and worked, but never seemed to get too far ahead. All of the other young men were moving forward much faster than he was./ppMany of these young men were dressed in finery while all he had were drab and dreary clothes. These young men all had elegant chariots drawn by beautiful horses. They had large homes that were beautiful both on the inside and on the outside./ppThe lovely young ladies wanted to be in the company of these other fine gentlemen but none of the young women wanted to spend their time with him. He was very desirous of their wealth and their things and their popularity./ppHe thought about having a new and exciting life all day long. He wished and he wished and he wished. One day, tired of just wishing, he asked one of the older men for some advice./ppIts very simple, the man told him. Take your savings and invest in the stock market. The good times, which we are enjoying right now, surely will last forever. If you would like to make the most money in the shortest amount of time, you should take the highest amount of risk./ppAnd so he did. He invested his savings in very high-risk ideas and parlayed his winnings into more and more investments that were riskier and riskier./ppHis friend was right. Investing in very high-risk ideas had made him a fortune in a very short time. He had been transformed from a shabbily dressed laborer into a gentleman of means. Now, he too had fancy clothes, a large, expensive home, and an elegant chariot drawn by a fine team of horses./ppThe beautiful young ladies, who had paid him no notice before, now found him attractive and desirable. They laughed at his jokes. Some even thought him to be smart. He was overjoyed with his exciting new life./ppOn another matter, his friend also appeared to be right. It did look like the good times would last forever and ever. Since this new money was easily earned, not by the sweat of his brow but as if by magic, it could be just as easily spent. He spent more and more time with wine, women and song, and paid very little attention to the times or to his investments./ppAs sometimes happens in these tales, the clock struck midnight. On the twelfth strike his fancy clothes became tatters and his elegant chariot turned back into a pumpkin. All of his things and all of his friends disappeared just as quickly as they had appeared./ppThere is a very sad yet very valuable lesson to be learned here. Surely, everyone has a right to dream big and to reach for and achieve those dreams. The universe is infinitely abundant. The pie is big enough for everyone to take as big a slice as they want./ppBut while you are eating the pie, make sure that you are paying careful attention to the bakery./ppGary Wollin, a registered investment advisor, has worked on Wall Street since 1961. He has been regularly featured in The Wall Street Journal, New York Times and many other publications around the world. He writes and speaks about selling, customer loyalty and sales, and stock market outlook, donating 100% of his fees to charity. For more information, please visit a target=_new href=http://www.garywollin.comhttp://www.garywollin.com/a/pbrbr

titleChild Custody And Support/titlepGoing through a bitter divorce can be a hard road with a very tough battle. You need to know what you are up against during a divorce with your spouse. While in the divorce, you might be worried about what is going to happen with the children that you have with your spouse. There are many details that you must worry about before the end of your divorce proceedings./ppThe first thing you will have to take care of is the division of property. Once the actually divorce is taken care of, the court will help you to take care of all of the division of your children. The court will assign one of you to be the custodial parent. The custodial parent will have the children the majority of the time. The other parent will be assigned as the non-custodial parent. This means that this parent will have some sort of partial custody with the children. Custody is usually decided upon based on the stability of each of the parents. Once the court has decided on custody, they will then decide on child support that the custodial parent should get to help the children./ppChild support is a type of support payment that will help to provide the children with anything they might need as far as food, clothing, and supplies for living. Usually during the division of custody, the court will make a decision as to what the child support amount will be monthly. The decision is based on the number of children that are involved in the relationship. The court will also look at the amount of income that the non-custodial parent makes each month. You may be worried about how much you will have to pay each month to your spouse and children. You will be required to submit statements showing how much income you have each month. They will assign a percentage of what you make each month to each child. Another important factor is taking care of some kind of insurance for each of the children./ppThe insurance holder can be determined by either the court or the ex-spouses. One of the parents must hold some type of full coverage insurance on all of the children. This insurance is usually in addition to all of the child support that is required by the state of Texas./ppFor more information, contact the a target=_new href=http://denton-divorce-lawyers.com/Default.aspxDenton Family Law Attorneys/a of Alexander and Associates at 972-420-6560./ppJoseph Devine/pbrbr

titleDoes He Think You Could Be His Wife?/titlepBack up. Youre with your boyfriend but that doesnt mean hes thinking about a long-term commitment with you./ppA man can have the most amazing experiences with a woman and still not commit to her in a way she wants. Men take their time when it comes to giving up their freedom./ppI dont want to insult your intelligence, you have most likely gone through relationships with men and wonder about how strange they could be when it comes to relationships./ppLike when they say theyll call..and dont./ppLike when they sleep with you and dont call./ppLike when they hang out with you, treat you like their girlfriend but still dont commit to you./ppLike when they expect you to move in with them, act like a wife and not give you a ring./ppStrange creatures./ppAnd sometimes you gotta just leave them alone to figure out who they are and what they want./ppIf youve been seeing your man for a while and he hasnt brought up the idea of commitment, take a hike from him and disappear./ppThe less you are around, the more hell think about you - that is if you meant anything to him at all./ppMen who want commitment are consistent in their approach. They will want to be around you, make the time, do what they say theyll do and go the extra mile./ppThat kind of man is worthy of your attention, anything else and youve got an emotionally unavailable boy who just wants to have his cake and eat it too./ppNicole Gayle is the author of the e-book, How to Go from Girlfriend to Wife, written to help you take your man from maybe to I do - Be the kind of woman your man HAS to marry. a target=_new href=http://www.howtogofromgirlfriendtowife.comhttp://www.howtogofromgirlfriendtowife.com/a/pbrbr

titleAdvice That Will Help You Win Back Your Ex/titlepIf you broke up recently, you are probably looking for a way to get back together with your ex. It is definitely possible to save ANY relationship…if you do it the right way. There are some things you can do to help, but there are also some things you should not do if you ever want a chance of getting your ex back./ppFirst off, here are some things you should NOT do. You should NOT keep calling your ex right after the breakup. This might annoy him or her and make the situation worse. Instead you should limit contact and give your ex some time to calm down a little./ppSecondly, you should NOT threaten your ex or talk about her behind her back. You should never argue with your ex, and you shouldnt throw around insults. This could possibly end your relationship forever./ppAnother common mistake people make (especially men) is to bribe their ex into coming back. Buying gifts for your ex will make you lose money and will probably not save your relationship./ppBelieve it or not, the best thing to do is to IGNORE your ex for a while. Live life like you normally would. Act calm, confident, and happy. Dont let the breakup get you down. Go out with friends and have some fun. Once your ex finds out that you seem to be doing fine on your own, he will get a little jealous and think about you constantly! Once your ex is mesmerized by the thoughts of you ignoring him, he will WANT you to contact him and he will be desperate for you again./ppThen you have your chance to a TARGET=_new href=http://www.squidoo.com/HowToWinBackTheLoveOfYourLifewin back your ex/a/ppCut off contact and WAIT for the right time to work things out. Once he actually wants, or needs, you again, you will easily be able to work things out. Getting to that point can seem a little difficult though. For more advice on how to get your ex back, and for some helpful videos to watch for free, you can check out my site at a target=_new href=http://www.squidoo.com/HowToWinBackTheLoveOfYourLifehttp://www.squidoo.com/HowToWinBackTheLoveOfYourLife/a/ppGood luck getting your ex back!/pbrbr

Have you ever walked into a department store and noticed all the different options there are in dress socks for men? Not only are there different options in terms of style, length, thickness, and materials used (cotton, silk, etc.), price is also a factor. Prices for socks can generally range from $6.95 a pair up to $40 a pair! As author of Grooming Secrets For Men I’m always thinking of things that guys want to know about. So, one day I was at Nordstrom and saw all these options in socks, and decided to buy a pair in each price range so I could keep track of how they would hold up as time went by.

I was wondering if the pair for $6.95 would hold up after several months of wearing, washing, and drying, as the pair for $40. I was also wondering how all the different price points would hold up as well. So I purchased 5 pairs of socks and wore them all for 3 months. They all went through normal wear and washing and drying. Of course I was hoping that the $40 pair would hold up better, and last longer than the lower priced ones!

Before I reveal the results I have to say that the more expensive pairs were made with better quality materials, and some were even sewn by hand. Overall the more expensive pairs were also more comfortable to the touch and to wear.

Now for the results! After all the wearing, washing and drying, it turned out that they all held up well except for the $40 pair! The $40 pair were a sheer dress sock that were sewn by hand. The heal on this pair started to wear thin, and holes started to form! Although they looked great and were comfortable, I would not buy them again since they were too delicate, and I had to throw them out.

So, the moral of the story is, unless you don’t care, don’t waste your money on the more expensive brands of socks, they won’t last longer!

Author David Scott Bartky helps men all over the world look their best with the techniques and advice offered in his book “Grooming Secrets For Men” which can be found at http://www.thestylishman.com Isn’t it time you look your best!